Comments on: When People Leave You

By: joelma

joelma — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 15:52:23 +0000

This has also come to me at a perfect time. I’ve been hurting because of what seems like a lost friendship. This past weekend, I was at a women’s retreat and we wrote “issues that weigh us down” on pieces of sticky notes and attached them to our clothes. Then, we stripped them down and gave them up to God. One of mine was about a friend that I feel has pulled away from me. The next day, at Fusion, Tony McCollum talked about the fear of rejection in relationships and I decided to not be afraid of more rejection and reach out one more time. However, I just read Tony’s blog post and I realize I can’t convince this friend to stay in my life, and honestly, I’m tired of chasing after any of my friendships. That’s it… it’s now in God’s hands and I already feel relieved. Thanks Lori, for pointing out Tony’s blog post.

By: lost

lost — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 19:01:20 +0000

this lifted my spirits!

By: Eileen

Eileen — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 08:48:23 +0000

I don’t know who Pastor TD JAkes is.
But, this sermon came from PASTOR JOEL OSTEEN!!!!!

“The people that walked away are not tied to your destiny”
“God, I know that you have a plan for me to go forward.
If you allowed this person to leave my life.

LET THEM GO.

Don’t talk people into staying that want to leave.
They’re still gonna go, whether it’s a week, a year.
Delaying the inevitable.

When God is done with something, there’s no amount of super glue that will hold it together.
Gift of “good-bye”
Them leaving you is God giving you a gift.

You want people who are supposed to be there.
You don’t have to manipulate them to stay.

When God joins people to you.
You don’t have to play up to them.

You cannot keep people like that happy.
If they’re not talking about you now. They’re going to talk about you later.

My time is valuable,
to try to keep people happy, that are never going to be happy.

No matter what you did, no matter how hard you try.
They’re going to find some reason to complain.
Some reason to find fault.
A new problem to fix.

“They went out from us. Because they’re not apart of us.”
When someone leaves your life, they’re no longer apart from your destiny.

They’re time in your life is over.
God is going to bring people that are not just with you, but for you.

Be your best each day and God will bring you divine connections.

God will always bring the right people in you life, but you got to let the wrong ones, walk away.
If you don’t let the wrong ones go, the right ones will never show up.

You don’t need them to make up for what you’re lacking.
Don’t believe those lies.”

-Pastor Joel Osteen
<3

I love him.

By: Ariana

Ariana — Mon, 31 May 2010 22:34:06 +0000

Also, I don’t know if this is a good or a bad thing, but I know that the moment he decides to come back and look for me, grow up and be the person I want him to be, I think I will be waiting for him. But also, there is another part of me that has completely absorbed everything that has happened from the beginning til’ now and it tells me I can’t wait any more. That things can’t be happening around him, at his time. And I have to completely let him go, for good.

By: Ariana

Ariana — Mon, 31 May 2010 22:29:35 +0000

I really needed to know this. For some time now, I have been really upset because of a friend of mine. He used to always be there for me, making me trust him blindly, he became my best friend. He suddenly started talking less and less to me, he said nothing was wrong, and we have talked about the situation many times now, because I was always upset about it, I couldn’t understand what had I done wrong that had caused this. We would make plans and out of the blue he would cancel them because something else came up, or he just couldn’t show up and I always kept forgiving him because I really wanted for him to be there. I really wanted to give him the chance to be there, like he once did. Now, I had kind of accepted that idea of letting him go little by little, and started talking less to him and then he promised he would come to visit me, like the old times. I was waiting and waiting for him, he never showed up. I thought maybe he had a really good reason and waited for him to explain. He never did. I saw him the next day, which is today, and he didn’t even say a word to me about it. Nothing. I think this really has opened my eyes and made me realize it is time to finally let him go, and stop asking him to stay if that is not what he wants.

By: Tony

Tony — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 13:10:35 +0000

Chris, I’ve been a pastor for a long time and I can tell you that it always hurts and it never gets any easier. You’ve just got to lean on God and trust Him during those times. Also, try to focus on the folks that have stayed. Invest in them and love on them. God will send you new leaders to replace the ones that left.

Praying for you, bro.

Tony

By: Tony

Tony — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 13:10:00 +0000

Praying for you, bro.

Tony

By: Chris Bullock

Chris Bullock — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 04:26:31 +0000

Tony,
I really needed to read this tonight… several of my key leaders at FUSIONchurch (in Atlanta) are leaving (for good reasons) and it hurts, not just because of the leadership vacancy they leave behind but because these are good friends, people I love deeply and I’ve been sharing my life and ministry with for 4 years.

I’m usually pretty good about letting people go and moving on, but sometimes it is really tough when they are people that are closer than your own family – they are friends who have become family.

Thanks for posting.

By: Chris Bullock

Chris Bullock — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 04:26:00 +0000

Thanks for posting.

By: Tony

Tony — Sun, 24 May 2009 19:34:56 +0000

Paul and Roger, I’m glad you guys got something out of that post!