I think it IS our calling to be a steadfast friend if it’s possible; to be that person who can give wise counsel, or just remind the person who’s done this that they are still lovable by God and people, and they haven’t forfeited everything if they repent and are willing to follow God.

There’s just a big difference to me between rejecting sin–which I advocate!–and rejecting the person because they’ve sinned. Know what I mean?
.-= Kristen´s last blog ..Deception and Heartache =-.

I think it IS our calling to be a steadfast friend if it’s possible; to be that person who can give wise counsel, or just remind the person who’s done this that they are still lovable by God and people, and they haven’t forfeited everything if they repent and are willing to follow God.

There’s just a big difference to me between rejecting sin–which I advocate!–and rejecting the person because they’ve sinned. Know what I mean?
.-= Kristen´s last blog ..Deception and Heartache =-.

Your comment seems to imply that people are obligated to stay in relationship with people no matter what choices they make. I think we’re obligated to love and extend grace, but we’re fooling ourselves to think that one another’s choices shouldn’t affect how we all relate to one another, at least those in the kingdom. We’re simply unable to silo our relationships separately from our behavior. In fact, relationships that do exist like that are really not relationships at all.

Please know that I’m not relating this specifically to Gary or anyone else. I only met him once and am surely not qualified to make any assumptions about how he may or may not walk this out. I’m of the school of believing the best until proven otherwise, and even then just shutting up about it. :-) But I’m not in the school that says ‘let’s all ignore and enable’ if a dear friend makes bad choices.

rb
.-= Randy Bohlender´s last blog ..Because We Can. =-.

Your comment seems to imply that people are obligated to stay in relationship with people no matter what choices they make. I think we’re obligated to love and extend grace, but we’re fooling ourselves to think that one another’s choices shouldn’t affect how we all relate to one another, at least those in the kingdom. We’re simply unable to silo our relationships separately from our behavior. In fact, relationships that do exist like that are really not relationships at all.

Please know that I’m not relating this specifically to Gary or anyone else. I only met him once and am surely not qualified to make any assumptions about how he may or may not walk this out. I’m of the school of believing the best until proven otherwise, and even then just shutting up about it. :-) But I’m not in the school that says ‘let’s all ignore and enable’ if a dear friend makes bad choices.

rb
.-= Randy Bohlender´s last blog ..Because We Can. =-.

What if Gary’s response to the situation doesn’t exactly mesh with your expectations? What will you do then?

What if Gary’s response to the situation doesn’t exactly mesh with your expectations? What will you do then?