Frustrated

I find myself increasingly frustrated these days by the fact that people can just walk out of their marriages and leave their spouses holding the bag and nobody seems to care.  I’ve recently seen both men and women do this and it both bugs me and breaks my heart.  It’s not right that folks can just do whatever they want and the faithful spouse is the one that has to shoulder the brunt of the weight and try to pick up the pieces alone.

Folks, I know that it can get stressful in marriages at times.  I know there’s a lot of responsibility and there are always problems to work out and bills to pay but don’t let that pressure make you lose your perspective, and your mind, and your marriage.  Toughen up and stick with it.  Things will get better.  Don’t give up and don’t run off.  It’s not about you.  It’s not about your adolescent fantasies.  It’s not about looking out for yourself, your space or your freedom.  It’s about being an adult and doing the right thing.

If you’re considering leaving, please listen to me.  No matter how much greener the grass may look on the other side you will no be happier there in the long run.  The Bible teaches us that real life is not found in pleasing yourself or looking out just for yourself.  If you leave and pursue whatever it is you think you simply must have, you are only going to be worse off down the road.  Trust me.  I’ve seen it over and over again.  You are going to destroy everything you really care about and end up with only more pain, complications and pressures in your life.

You’ve got to stick it out through the tough times.  You’ve got to fight the inclination to run.  If you do, you will be rewarded.  You’ll make it through this tough season and you’ll experience grace and love and joy.  You’ll be so glad you did the right thing and so will your spouse, and your kids…and your God.

So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.  Galatians 6:9 (NLT)